1st Anniversary
August 18, 2009
Obviously, I haven’t been blogging a lot. This is one of those very important events that I can’t miss out on blogging though.
One year!
Somehow I got lucky, and somehow that luck lasted me a whole year! I’m just really greatful for everything good and bad that has happened in the last 365 days.
A few highlights:
- countless meals in some of the most hole-in-the-wall food places you can find. (nothing beats this!)
- hanging out with her different barkadas
- Camiguin / Lanao tour (both good and bad)
- Bantayan Island trip
- Hong Kong trip
- Zambales trip
- Tagaytay trips
- 2 different jobs for Daph (2 different meeting places for me)
- driving around and getting into accidents
- countless fights and reconciliations
- countless surprises
- countless photographs
- all the bus trips and short walks late at night (each one was more than worth it)
…and lots more!
Thanks thanks thanks sobra Daph! I really couldn’t ask for more talaga! =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D
cool sis
December 18, 2008
My sister’s really cool!!!
A few months back..I thought manila was going to eat her alive. I mean, she didn’t want to eat, she didn’t stop crying, etc..
Well…She’s back to talking non-stop again, and yeah, she’s made a LOT of friends already. She even directed her class play.
Way to go Dayday! 
cutting mass
November 9, 2008
A while ago, I cut mass short to save time to pick up my dad and sis at the airport. I then got a flat tire. There goes the 30 mins of time I wanted to save.
Not blaming the stupidity on fate or anyone else though.. but still… the way things happened, it really makes you think.
try nyo
June 4, 2008pano nyo i-act out ito?
=D
tip: use two index fingers as the “=” tapos ngiti ka ng kita ang teeth.
hahahaha
sobrang saya
sobrang saya ko ngayon!!! =D
mas masaya pa kesa nung December!
=D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D =D
Mom’s gift to kids: ‘No!’
May 9, 2008
Let’s face it.
Sooner or later, most of us are going to face this kind of situation.
(Oprah.com) — Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, host of a show on Oprah and Friends Radio, says we can’t just blame kids for acting bratty or spoiled. Kids today, he says, are exhibiting a lot of anger because they feel neglected by parents who may put careers ahead of family.
"The one thing that kids need in huge doses is love," Rabbi Shmuley says. "They’re insatiable for it. They’re not getting it."
Rabbi Shmuley says parents have a hard time teaching discipline and respect for others because of three factors affecting many families.
1. Exhaustion: Parents can’t say no because they don’t have the energy to do so.
2. Guilt: Not being able to give more of their time, parents often give material gifts instead.
3. A loveless society: Shmuley says "we don’t live in a very loving society. People come from broken childhoods; they often have loveless marriages. The only love they get is from their children, so they’re afraid to discipline them because they think their children won’t love them."
Parents, Rabbi Shmuley says, need to realize that discipline is love. "’No’ is just as loving as saying ‘yes,’" he says.
Rebecca, a divorced mother of two who works, knows that she spoils her kids. Since she works a full-time job, she cannot spend as much time with her son and daughter as she would like. "A lot of times I feel like I am Mom and Dad to both of my children," she says.
Because she feels guilty about not spending enough time with them, Rebecca says she tends to "overcompensate when they ask me for things … so I overindulge."
Rebecca’s children have developed certain techniques to get the things they want. Her 5-year-old son, Brandon, uses "sad eyes." Her daughter, Stephanie, uses peer pressure. "If I really want to get something from my mom," Stephanie says, "I’ll come home and I’ll be like, ‘Mom, all my friends have [it].’"
Rebecca says her inability to deny her children’s every want is getting out of control. "I want to say no, but it comes out yes," she says.
Dr. Robin Smith says Rebecca is trying to make up for her perceived inadequacy as a single working mom by showering Brandon and Stephanie with gifts. This places so much emphasis on material goods that the children are learning to define themselves by material things.
"If they were to lose everything — if the rug gets pulled from underneath us — you’ve got to be able to still know that you are good enough," Dr. Robin says. "Right now, if they lose things, they’re going to feel empty."
The solution to feelings of guilt, Dr. Robin says, won’t come from stuff. "I want you to really recognize that what you’re trying to do, which is to love them, to make up for your not being there, you can’t do it with things. Things will never satisfy and never fill the sacred hole that only a mom and dad can do."
As for Rebecca’s struggles as a single mom, Dr. Robin says, "You can’t be Dad, just be a good mom. Or if you’re a dad, just be a good dad. Fill your own sense of being good enough and satisfied and that it’s not about what you have … and then you can feel good about yourself."
Do you think your inability to say no is harming your kids? These are three questions you need to ask yourself.
Do your children earn the things they get?
Some parents reward children who aren’t actually doing anything to earn a reward. Dr. Robin says chores are a good way to instill a reward system, even in a 5-year-old. "He could pick up his toys in his room; he could pick up his clothing; he could help his mother take the trash out," she says. "Not because you need [the help], but because it’s cultivating being competent and thoughtful."
Does your child value things more than people?
Unchecked, a craving for possessions will become insatiable, Dr. Robin says. When this happens, it can stifle real emotional development. "I’m not really interested in whether or not I’m building great, healthy relationships," Dr. Robin says. "I’m interested in how many more gadgets I get."
Are you trying to soothe your child with things?
While new clothes and toys might make your child happy temporarily, that happiness will not last. "I don’t want them to be just happy now. I want them to become whole individuals," Dr. Robin says.
Like Rebecca, Jeri can’t seem to say no to her kids. Not only do Jeri’s two teenaged daughters manipulate her, so does her married 23-year-old daughter.
Four and half months ago, Jennifer and her husband moved into a second home her parents own, under the agreement that she would pay rent. So far, she hasn’t paid anything. When Ashley turned 16, she wanted a sporty car. Though Jeri told Ashley she needed to get a job to pay for it, after a year and a half, Jeri still pays for the insurance and the gas. Jaime sticks to asking her mom for "important stuff — like shoes," she says.
Jeri says she wants to put her foot down, but she just can’t say no. And at the end of every month, she says she finds herself strapped for cash.
Dr. Robin says Jeri must consider the lessons her daughters are learning. They’re completely unable to fend for themselves, and their ability to feel a sense of personal accomplishment has been removed. "You’re teaching them, in some ways, how to be victims of you."
At the core, Dr. Robin says, the problem is that Jeri spoils Jennifer, Ashley and Jaime in order to avoid something. "And I want to know, what are you trying to avoid?" Dr. Robin asks.
"I wonder sometimes maybe if I don’t do what they want me to do, maybe they won’t love me as much," Jeri says.
"I know that’s a strong concept, but we need to talk strong because their lives are at stake," Dr. Robin says. "You could actually, although you want to help them, create cripples."
Dr. Robin wants to redefine what it means to love a child. "Part of loving your children is to give them boundaries," she says. "What we’ve seen today is what creates failure." Instead of giving your children everything they want, Dr. Robin wants parents to start living by a "golden rule."
"When you say no, you must mean it and stick to it — period," she says. "If [a parent’s] word means nothing, it means that there’s no respect. If I’m not respecting you, then I’m disrespecting you … If you can’t live it, your kids can sniff it out."
From "The Oprah Winfrey Show," "Moms Who Can’t Say No"
from: http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/personal/05/08/o.moms.cant.say.no/index.html
back in the game
April 22, 2008
Got back from the doctor’s appointment..
Basically my heart is thick due to all the running.. so it’s normal. There will be other tests to be sure though.
Oh, and I asked him if I could play basketball..
He said OK =)
10K naging bato
April 21, 2008
Yep…
P10K to nothing. Grrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!
Blame it on bad management and not learning all the loopholes at the start. Yeah….always read the fine print!!
Know every little loophole if possible!!!
TSK TSK TSK
Oh well.. just have to manage stuff better next time.
heart problems
April 15, 2008
I was experiencing heart palpitations yesterday.
They say it’s usually caused by too much caffine and stress.
I had only 2 cups of coffee and little to eat. Work wasn’t that stressful. Although my body has been experiencing a lot of stress lately. Cramps, bruises, banging, wounds, etc.. I guess that counts as stress as well.
Oh yeah.. there’s this case of me having a stupid mouth as well. Somehow, this has been bothering me a lot more than the palpitations have =(
